I Can No Longer Be a Traditional Sobriety Writer

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Sometimes it seems everyone online has to be a guru about something. That’s the whole purpose of the personal brand. I know something you want to know about. Often its the same ideas, rehashed, repurposed. I’ve been guilty of it too…

A Death Out of Sight

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Early 2019

There was a certain point in my now weekly train journey from London Paddington to my small, rural hometown, where reality would invade. I could no longer delude myself into the feeling I was on a business trip, or a spur of the moment jaunt.

I’ll Do Whatever It Takes To Get You Back, My Love

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Back in late 2019 I received a small bonus from my job. I’m not talking banker-style thousands, but enough for me to consider impulse buying a PS4 and not anxiously hand-wring for weeks over the expenditure. I was excited.

I had it all planned out. I’d rush home, plug it…

Sobriety Was My Magic Fix

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For me at least, July 13th 2021 will be remembered as a momentous day. It’s a day that I’ve been anticipating —dreaming about, working towards — for more than four years. It marks the end of a problem I’d been stressed and anxious about for over a decade.

Today I…

Men and their toys

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Recently I found myself idly scrolling through TikTok. The app — as most tend to these days — thinks it knows me pretty well. It provides a steady and addictive stream of Beyoncé dance breaks, clips from the New York ballroom era, cute cats misbehaving, and van-lifers’ Ten Top Tips…

Sober Writings After a Fortnight of Mess

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I thought I was honestly nailing the whole sobriety thing. Months had passed since I had wanted to drink. I felt strong. Recently I wrote about how my longest sustained attempt at sobriety to date was filling my life with a newfound sense of wonder, and I meant it. …

Many Other LGBTQ People Might Struggle Too

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Now that my friendship group is ageing, dragged kicking and screaming into our thirties, getting together is a very different affair. Many amongst us are making urgent plans for the years to come. Biological clocks are ticking, albeit very faintly.

Inevitably, conversation turns to the matter of kids. Who wants…

How it happened, and 5 tips to help new writers avoid the same mistake

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Recently I was half way through a fellow Medium writer’s latest article, in which they bemoaned a fellow writer for essentially copying one of their near-viral titles. The writer was frustrated, bemused, a little cheesed off. It was a humorous read that also packed a strong punch.

There I was…


Sober Hangout Hacks for the Socially Anxious

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I love sobriety, but I don’t love what it does to my social anxiety. In early sobriety, operating without the social crutch of alcohol, social events made me feel like a pariah. I had nothing exciting to say, no personality to draw upon. I was devastated. My former joke-cracking self…

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I used to think of them as my magic moments. They would come often, unheralded, the cause shape-shifting from one moment to the next. There were the classic triggers: a beautiful vista, the New York City skyline, a sunset that seemed painted with every colour in nature’s palette.

There were…

James Fox Jeffries

(Hopefully) humorous writing on young sobriety, mental health, cats, and LGBTQ matters. Written for Huffpost, Lyra, and others. London, UK.

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